The great Ali Eteraz is launching what’ll hopefully become a new feature, one in which the fated weekly contributor details his harrowing experiences of worship in a place of God that isn’t “his”. I had a funny story of my own that I thought I’d eventually turn into a blog post, but hey, this could garner some nice traffic, which could be a good motivator for me to keep this little blogfire lit. Well, here goes.
During sprink break of 7th grade, (2002, if I remember correctly), my family and I planned a trip out to Niagara Falls. This was in the same school year in which the world was witness to the unspeakable events of September 11th. Looking back at that age, and then fast forwarding to today, makes the event of which I am about to describe all the more foreshadow-y.
We left on a Friday morning, with boxes of granola bars, water, and a full tank of gas. My mom thought it would be a grand idea that we make what was supposed to be a “quick” pitstop to a Detroit mosque for, what else, jummah. My dad didn’t like the idea, as he wanted to get to the hotel ASAP. We’d be driving from our very own Kenosha, so it was already going to be quite the drive out.
But, in the end, dad caved to mom, and we had embarked on our journey. After a couple hours of wining, rest stops, fast food, and more whining, we had finally stopped at the mosque I had googled the previous day. The Islamic Center of America? It sounded, to my 13 year-old self, quite the place. We jotted down the address, and after some wrong turns (“Khabeez sarak!”), we had finally arrived.
Upon entering the mosque, even I knew that something wasn’t right. I looked over at my dad, (mom had hurried up to the women’s section) his eyes wide. Umer (the younger sibling) noted that he had never seen an imam with such a funny black turban. Didn’t sikhs wear those? I turned to dad in time to see a word slowly beginning to form on his lips.
“Shi’a.”
We entered the mosque, my brother and I still not quite sure what was going on. As I walked in, I remembered seeing people grab stones in their hand. I would later learn that these stones are called turba stones, and the Shi’a, while in sajdah, rest their heads on these holy stones. But to my tweeny Sunni self, it was most peculiar. After we listened to the khutbah in English and in another language (I’m gonna assume Persian), the adhan was given (of course, it didn’t sound like my adhan).
We got up, raised our hands, and subsequently began the most awkward prayer imaginable. I did the only thing I knew how; thumbs to the ears, hands resting on the stomach. Much to my chagrin, the rest of the group wasn’t exactly feelin’ it. Where our hands faithfully stood folded over each other on our stomachs, their hands remained at their side. I just followed my dad, who, to the very last wa rahmatullah, stayed true. As soon as it was over, we made our hasty exit. We even missed the potluck brunch.
That was my first experience with Shi’ism. I think it stands as a testament that up until that pleasant day, I didn’t know very much at all about the “other” Islam. And even though my parents did, they didn’t make much out of it. I hadn’t known or sensed animosity, only the fact that we were different. Fast forward 5 years later, and the words Sunni and Shiite are plastered all over the media. Iraq is in the midst of a civil war due to a renewed bloodlust between the two forces. Not a day goes by that innocent people in Iraq are being murdered by their own countrymen because of these differences. It’s disheartening. That’s how the relationship used to be across the world for the while. There was a sort of mutual respect. Because of Iraq, I feel as if tensions between Sunnis and Shi’a worldwide have been subtly stressed. Let it be known that I harbor no ill towards the Shi’a, and you shouldn’t either, because, as God says in the Qur’an, “to you your religion, and to me, mine.”
Interesting story. Thanks for sharing!
i had a VERY similar experience
first time at a shia mosque
i wanted to laugh at myself i was soo lost
except for the hands to the sides part, im maliki so I pray with my hands to the sides anyway
(yes there are sunnis that pray with their hands to the sides)
I’ll put you on my blogroll inshaAllah
The story was quite interesting. I, in a similar situation, would have been very curious to find out more about their practices.
There is a problem though-
“to you your religion, and to me, mine.” was said to the unbelievers, recognize their right to believe in what they believed.
In the context of Shi’a, Muslims- let there be no coercion in matters of faith (2:256) is more appropriate.
I think you know, but let me reiterate, there isn’t much theological dispute between Shi’a and Sunni. The source of the trouble is the dispute over who should have led the Muslims in bygone days. As for me, I agree in some cases with the Shi’a and in some cases with the Sunni about who should have led the Muslims.
Please do not think of yourself as a Shi’a or a Sunni. We are Muslims. Those who divide among Muslims are cursed in the Qur’an.
But He is all-forgiving.
I see where you’re coming from. The schism simply evolved from a political dispute into a theological one, which is unfortunate.
But, yeah, as a hungry 13 year old, I guess I had other things on my mind. If the same thing happened today, I’d love to really take it all in more.
Yeah, I guess as 13 year old, and a hungry one, I wouldn’t have noticed anything! Atleast you did.
However, political debate has not developed into theological one, as far as I am aware.
The difference is who are recognized as legitimate caliphs.
Those who reject the first three Caliph and al-Maumayya as legitimate Caliph are Shi’a. Those who accept them are Sunni.
I don’t understand this- how does it matter now?
Yeah. Deeply held convictions are hard to kill, I guess. The reason I talk about the “evolution” of the schism is, as far as I’m aware, religious practice wasn’t too different between the Party of Ali and those against. As soon as the schism widened, separate interpretations began arising, and as a result, separate practices, holidays, salat style, etc.
They were only choosing leaders, as you said, and then all of a sudden, we have two quite different sects of what both call Islam.
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Salams,
I took my five year old son for the first time to attend the first jum’ah in the month of Ramadan to a Sunni masjid. Upon completion of the prayers he stated in wonderment:the are just like us!. Our experiences of each others masjid are very beneficial to aver the othering.
M.Husayn
I’ve been to that masjid a few times (isn’t it beautiful?) and prayed there without any issues. Interesting story.
Really interesting story. I’ve often wondered how I would feel if I went to a Shi’a mosque (accidentally or on purpose) or, more complicated, to an Ahmedi mosque. Somehow I feel a lot more hesitant going to the mosque of another sect than to the house of worship of another religion. It has something to do with the awkwardness. I’m with Muslims, I shouldn’t feel awkward! Awkwardness among Muslims is something that causes a lot more dread.
I’d like to point that there are a couple theological differences between the Sunni and the Shi’a. They stem from the leadership conflict, but they’ve become theological because of the eschatology – the Sunni notion of the end of time is different from the Shi’i notion. Sunni’s aren’t waiting for Imam Mahdi. And that has an effect on the rest of the religious life, ideas of accountability, retribution, being saved and so on. I don’t think the difference is of any lasting significance, but there is a difference.
As Salaam Alaikum,
That was a great post! I had a similar experience when I moved to a new city further south than the one previously. I went to the local Masjid and believe it or not it took SEVERAL Jummah’s for me to actually notice it was a majority Shia Mosque!
Go figure
I’mma piss on yo cat.
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